My family came to the United States in 1993. I still remember vividly how my parents vowed that our family would never worship any gods or idols after we immigrated to the United States. They made that vow because their worship of gods and idols in China had disappointed them, for their gods brought them neither wealth nor happiness. My parents told my sister and me that we would start our lives anew, and, this time, by relying on our own strength and effort.
Following my parents’ new life philosophy, I worked hard in high school and got into UC Berkeley with full scholarship. Though I did well in school in my freshmen year, I was experiencing intense loneliness due to the breakup with my ex-girlfriend. I started to fall into depression. Though I put up a cheery face before others, I was dying inside and I didn’t know what to do. The lonely feelings drove me to think about how I was living and what I was living for. Right around this time, God orchestrated a chance meeting with a Christian at the Unit 3 DC. There, I began my journey of seeking God. I joined the college group, which used to be called ABSK. I took Course 101, but, at the end of it, I couldn’t make a decision to accept Christ as my Lord and Savior because of my parents. I was afraid that they would be angry with me for disobeying them. Also, I still had doubts that God could love me more than my parents. After all, my parents were the ones who gave me birth and really sacrificed a lot for me.
However, God had mercy on me. He opened my eye to see that my parents’ love for me was very limited in the summer after my sophomore year. I got my first B in my sophomore year. When I told my dad about this, he was very upset at me and said that if I didn’t do well in school that he and the whole family would be looked down by my aunts. Though I had heard of such remark before, I was particularly struck with the feeling that I was only a puppet on a string to them. That incident allowed me to see clearly for the first time the limitedness of my parents’ love for me. That opened my heart to seek God’s love. Soon after that, I recognized more clearly my sinfulness and my need for a Savior in Jesus Christ. So, I made my decision to accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior the summer after my sophomore year.
The first scary task after becoming a Christian was to break the news of my decision to my parents. However, it was clear to me that I had to tell them about this decision because it was a very important decision. I didn’t think that I could truly live as a Christian until I told them about it. God had mercy on me. My parents received the news without much disapproval.
After receiving the Gospel, I wanted people around me to hear this Good News as well, especially my parents. However, I was filled with doubts and cynicisms about sharing the Gospel with them, given my age, me being their son, and the language barrier. When I brought up these doubts to my leaders, they encouraged me to pray and live out God’s love before them. I am really grateful for my leaders because they took up my concerns and prayed for them as well. Their prayers and support really encouraged me. I cried out to God in prayers. In my prayers, God showed me that I could show His love to my dad through meeting with him for lunch regularly on Saturdays. At that time, Saturday was my major sleep catch-up day. I would go back to my parents’ apartment in SF and take a really long nap. God, in His wisdom, showed me that I could use my time better. It was over these lunch meetings that my dad and I got to talk about politics, education, my life, his life and eventually religion and church. After about 6 months of meetings like this, I sensed that my dad’s heart toward Christianity was softening up.
One time, my leader gave me an apologetic book called “Science and Faith” written in Chinese for my dad to read. On my mom’s 45th birthday, I gave my mom a Bible as her birthday gift. I wasn’t sure how she would receive it, but, amazingly, my mom told me that she had wanted to read the Bible. After that, my dad actually started to read the Bible on his own. He would ask questions about the Bible and about Jesus’ teachings during our Saturday meetings. Not long after that, I asked them if they would like to attend church. After some struggles, they agreed to go. This was a huge step forward in their spiritual journey. After attending church regularly for two months, they called me one day and told me that they made a decision to accept Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior. They said they wanted to turn back to the one true God after sinning against Him by worshipping idols for so many years. I couldn’t believe it. My jaws dropped. That was one of the happiest and the most unbelievable moments in my life.
Since then, their lives began to change. They had in their hearts joy, peace and gratitude to God for their salvation. But God continued to help them grow. One of the biggest tests of faith for my parents was my decision to go to China for short-term mission in 2003. When I told my parents that I wanted to go to China for short-term mission, my parents strongly disapproved of my plan. My parents suffered through Cultural Revolution. Since they had tasted the government’s persecution first-hand, they were very concerned about my safety. In view of their disapproval, I struggled over my decision to go to China. God convicted me that I should go because He will take care of my parents and He would provide for us. Finally, at the Eve of 2002, I received blessings from my parents to go. This struggle really refined my family’s faith in God.
And since then, God continued to use my parents to glorify His holy name. God gave my dad such hunger for his Word. When he first became Christian, he devoted himself to the reading of the Bible. He finished reading through the entire Bible once in less than one year’s time. And he started to become active in the publication department in his old church. Later, the pastor of the church discovered that he was a good writer, so he was asked to write for his church’s monthly newsletter. As his thirst for the Word of God continued to grow and per the encouragement from his pastor in his new church, he decided to go to seminary. He studied very diligently on nights and weekends while he performed well at work during the day. With the expanded knowledge about God, God used him in a larger capacity by having him teach Sunday School. After graduating from seminary in October last year, I heard from my mom that the pastor had asked my dad to preach at their Sunday Worship Service. I was like “What? My dad, a preacher man?” I was in disbelief.
Well, as much as I was in disbelief when I heard it the first time, it actually happened 3 weeks ago. God provided the opportunity. My dad’s church, Chinese Independent Baptist Church in Oakland, started a mandarin congregation about 5 weeks ago. In this new ministry, they needed someone who could speak fluent mandarin. Given that my dad had been teaching Sunday school and could speak Mandarin fluently, he was given the opportunity to preach. So, three Sundays ago, my dad stood behind the pulpit for the first time. Karen and I were there to witness God’s faithfulness in his life as we listened to the message. It was a very overwhelming experience for me because I had seen God’s faithful leading in my dad’s life every step of the way, from when my dad said “let’s rely on ourselves” to now that he passionately proclaimed: “we need to let the spirit of God live in us so that we could be the salt of the earth, light to the world, and the city on a hill that cannot be hidden.”
He preached on Matthew 5:13-16, challenging his congregation to live out their Christian faith and to reach out to the lost souls around them. In his message, he shared a personal story about how he encouraged his Caucasian coworker to go back to church after having stop going to church for 30 years. What happened was that, one day, he noticed that his coworker looked very down. When he asked her what happened, she told him that her son was arrested in her apartment after overdosing on drugs. She felt like she had lost her son, and she couldn’t do anything about it. My dad said to her: Didn’t you say that you are a Christian? Christians are never without hope because we could always ask God in prayers. She replied that she didn’t think that God would answer her prayers because she had not gone to church for 30 years. My dad told her that God would accept us and hear our prayers as long as we wanted to turn back to Him. So, my dad took her outside of the office and prayed together during the lunch time. She prayed for her son, and she also prayed that she would turn back to God by going to church. The following Monday, her face was beaming when she met my dad in the office. She told my dad that she went to church last Sunday, and God had answered that prayer. My dad said: “That’s great. Now, let’s continue to pray for your son.” So, they prayed. To keep the long story short. Her son eventually started going to church and became a Christian. The story was amazing enough, but knowing that my dad had been trying to live out his faith, his own message in his work place really challenged me.
After the service, when I went up to green my dad, I realized that my dad’s voice was shot from teaching Sunday school and preaching the service message back-to-back. Though it was hard labor, his face was beaming with joy—it was the joy of serving the Lord. Over dinner that night, I shared how proud I was to hear dad blowing out his voice by preaching God’s word at the service. After hearing that, my mom became concerned about my dad’s health. She told him to maybe preach less or lighten up ministry load since he was working full time. My dad became silent. Oh, how I understand that silence. That’s the silence that I would give to my parents when they told me to not run around too much or take on too much. Seeing my dad’s awkward silence, I chuckled in my heart. And then, I broke the silence by saying “You know. When we serve God, we don’t use our own strength. We use God’s strength. So, I think dad will be okay.” My dad could not agree more and said: “That’s right. It’s God’s strength.”
In closing, though this story is about my dad, this is really God’s story. And I look forward to seeing how God will continue to use my dad and the church that he serves in to advance God’s kingdom in his generation.